Dr Laura Schlessinger wrote something in her book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands that really made me step back and think about the pressure I was putting on my husband to really do something outstanding this one day a year. She said that a lot of the phone calls into her show were from women complaining about the fact that their husbands never did anything overly romantic for them on Valentine’s Day. These women wanted television and romance novel dreams to come true, but their husbands were falling short on Valentine’s Day and the ladies were angry! Then, Dr Laura went on to ask the women about how their husbands were every other day of the year, and come to find out they were doing most things right. These women were angry about how their husbands were falling short one day out of the year, but failed to recognize all of the things they did right the other 364 days.
I will admit, I used to be one of those women (remind me to tell you about our invitation to be guests on the Dr Phil Show). My husband who does so many things right is not the elaborate, romantic kind of guy and it used to drive me crazy. After reading Dr Laura’s book several years ago, I had a rude awakening and luckily was smart enough to change my tune.
Now, my husband and I make Valentine’s a very special day for our kids. For example, this evening we made a multi course meal of salad, homemade bread, baked potatoes, filet mignon with red wine sauteed mushrooms and asparagus. For dessert, we had the delicious Strawberry Shortcake Parfaits pictured above. Nick and I had the children sit at the table, lit the candles and put on soft music. We served them “fancy restaurant style” (with drinks in wine glasses, cloth napkins and the works) and the kids had a ball with the special attention. We then headed downstairs to the “movie theater” to watch a special movie, and then bed time ended in rooms at “Hotel Doyle”.
You may not think our Valentine’s Day sounds all that romantic, but trust me. Just sit back and watch your husband doting over your kids as a pretend waiter, chat together as you both wash and dry the dishes and clean up the kitchen and then watch later as he has kids draped all over him, sleeping on his shoulders and lap. My idea of romance has certainly changed since we’ve became parents and I read Dr Laura’s books. I would take this over chocolate and roses any day!
Strawberry Shortcake Trifle (from This Mama Loves to Cook)
(I made these into individual parfaits)
1 Angle Food Cake
1 8 oz. Cream cheese
1/2 tsp. vanilla
1 c. powdered sugar
1 c. sour cream
8 oz. Frozen Whipped Topping (thawed)
2 large container of fresh strawberries
Wash strawberries and remove berry tops. Slice strawberries.
Sprinkle granulated sugar over strawberries. Cut Angel Food
cake into 1-inch squares. Set aside. Blend together cream
cheese, vanilla, powdered sugar, and sour cream until smooth.
Fold in Whipped topping. In a trifle bowl layer ingredients
starting with half the cake cubes, then half of the sliced berries,
and then half of the cream cheese mixture. Repeat layers and
garnish with strawberries.
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What a great post. And what a great attitude. I am a Dad and always had my 3 kids draped all over me. They are grown now and I can’t tell ya how much I miss it.
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That sounds wonderful! My husband is not the romantic type either but made me a wonderful steakhouse dinner-all ready when I got home from work. It was exactly what I wanted.
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I’m right there with you….it was all about the kids today. 🙂
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This year we pretty much decided that we weren’t going to do candy and flowers and gifts. We focused on delicious foods and spending time together with the kids. We had a great day (and I think I weigh about ten pounds more than I did when I got up this morning)!
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Hi Kristen,
It seems you’ve had a beautiful V day…the idea of “romantic” depends a lot of the ages and cultures 😉
As a meat eater the fillet mignon with red wine should be delicious not mentioning the dessert…
I can smell the perfume of the strawberries and vanilla by feeling this gorgeous photo!
Cheers!
Gera
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I am right there with you! I never understood that- making a loving, hardworking, hands-on hubby and father feel bad for not bringing flowers on a day others tell him he’s supposed to! I’ll take 364 days of what I have over 1 day of what I didn’t get any day! Great post!
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You’re so right…and it sounds as if you had a perfect Valentine’s Day. Plus, just think of the wonderful model of a loving relationship you’re setting for your kids. Very inspiring!
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I love this post and the wonderful idea…sounds like the perfect Valentine’s Dinner.
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That sounds like the perfect day of love!
We never celebrate Valentine’s Day, ever. My husband is the least romantic man I know but it doesn’t bother me at all, and my last two posts on my blog explain it all. This sounds like a nice way to enjoy the day.
That sounds like a very lovely Valentine’s Day! And it certainly is important to enjoy each other every day of the year.
This is a great reminder of what romance can be with kids in your life. We were able to go out for a nice dinner just the two of us (which my husband planned) and it was wonderful.
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Wow! Thanks for another great recipe! Yum!
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Aww, good post. 🙂 My romantic Valentine’s day consisted of congestion and coughing. 🙁 I sitll did not have to cook though…we got carry out!
I love your Valentines Day and in fact that is what we did – Spent a quiet and fun night with my hubby and Step son and it was great – When we do not have kids in the house we always stay home and avoid all the crowds. Dr Laura in this case is right and there are a few things that I have done that she suggested that work like a charm.
Love the short cake!!
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Really nice post. I bet the kids wer thrilled 🙂
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That would seem to me to be about the most romantic of evenings! Romance never blooms under pressure.
Valentine’s Day is all about sharing your time with the ones you love. I would gladly share this luscious dessert with my daughter and her friends and their friends.
My girlfriend will love me for this dessert.
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I love Dr. Laura! Used to listen to her all the time. Sounds like a wonderful family time…that’s what V-day should be, I think. This dinner reminds me of a birthday party I had in 4th grade. I wanted to have a party like Laura Ingalls had in one of her books…a dinner party! All my friends dressed up and we had all my favorite foods (which would be DRASTICALLY different now!) of chicken rollups, creamed corn, broccoli casserole, rice, and MORE crescent rolls! When everyone arrived, my dad, dressed in his tuxedo, greeted them at the door and introduced them as “Miss ___” then we all had sparkling white grape juice in crystal glasses. SOOO much fun…you’d be surprised what a little “fancy” will do for fourth grade girls!
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So cute! It’s amazing how priorities do change as we “grow up.”
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Enjoy and cherish those moments.
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We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day either. We went to my parent’s house in KC for a crab boil and had a blast.
I’ve been feeling baby fever lately, which is very strange for me… reading this just made me smile.
~Cat
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i think you found a stellar way to celebrate the “holiday” known as valentine’s day. 🙂
also, although i’ve eaten a lot of strawberry shortcake in my day, your version with cream cheese, sour cream, AND whipped topping sounds absolutely divine. 🙂
Love making trifles, even when berries aren’t at their best. A bit of lemon juice and sugar will wake them up, and whipped cream will make them sing!
That’s beautiful, Kristen. I guess things do tend to revolve around the kids now, which isn’t a bad thing. Time flies by, we have to make the most of it, right? Sounds like you had the perfect Valentine’s Day. 🙂
Your Valentines Day sounds so wonderfuL! And your little triffles look so so cute! Before he died, my dad was always trying to get me to read Dr. Laura’s books. Its good to know that they have helped you and changed your way of thinking. Maybe I will read one…
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It must be strawberry shortcake week. I love the idea of a mini triffle or parfiat.
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Kristen-
You know Nick and Dave are cut from the same cloth, sometimes we just need that little reminder of how much our husbands do regularly! 🙂
My V Day story….When we got married, we talked about holidays and I let him know that I considered V Day to be primarily the wife’s holiday but that he would get great cards!! He’s been totally accepting of this and never fails to bring me a pot or bouquet of spring bulbs(tulips, daffodils, etc) which I very much prefer over roses. This year I saw an ad for a barbershop quartet. Growing up, Dave’s mom played for a quartet and I know he genuinely LOVES this type of music. Last Wednesday, I surprised him at school with the quartet. He and his class very much loved it! Then I heard through the grapevine, because we teach at the same school, that he was worried about how high I’d set the bar this year. All I could do was laugh, this one year was make up for the last twelve…..and he was worried? I assured him that tulips was all I was expecting and wanting….He delivered!!
Whitney
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That sounds like the most perfect Valentines day to me!!
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Now if I can only find me someone to create me this delicious dessert on a date!
Thanks for stopping by to vote and leaving a comment. Am I crazy for agreeing to this or what? LOL I am nervous but yet excited at the same time!
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Every time that I read one of these posts me makes me glad. Yes, we do not participate in this made up retail holiday. Our love is expressed daily. It saddens me when I see so many buy into this “Show your love day.”
We prefer to give gifts when they will truly have an impact and show true admiration and respect.
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I would have loved that “pretend dining out” treatment when I was a kid 🙂 What a fantastic and fun way to share the day as a family!
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My husband’s bday is 4 days before V Day and as a result, our celebration has always been me making a big Thai feast for him with some sort of indulgent dessert. I used to get flowers–but the cat always ate them. 🙂 I like what you guys do–I suppose now that we have kids it is a little similar to what we do, only Daddy gets his choice of cuisine, Thai.
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My husband went shopping with me on Valentines Day. I consider that VERY romantic since he hates to go shopping. He cooked me breakfast and dinner (simple stuff), I made him dessert. No pressures at all for either of us. We plan on doing that “no presents, just each others company” thing ever Valentines Day now.
This is so sweet!
Thank you.. i love trifle, and i was looking for a way to use up the berries.. i am making my own biscuits and whipped cream for this one! So rich and decatant, thanks!