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Best Friends Forever

Let’s talk friendship, shall we?

I don’t have a best friend. I’ve always been one of those girls to have a lot of good friends but as an adult, not a best girl friend. You know, that one friend you can call up and she’ll drop everything and be there in minutes with chocolate ice cream and wine? Or the first friend you call when something happens to a family member, no matter what the time? I crave that friend who understands and will happily participate in an over night slumber party watching Dirty Dancing, Footloose, Say Anything, St Elmo’s Fire and The Breakfast Club? I have no one to call to come indulge my girlhood fantasies of a Gayle / Oprah type friendship.

I love and adore the friends I have. They are some of the best women in the world and I am so lucky to have them for whatever I can get them for. But a best friend is different, right?

I’m thankful my oldest two kids have found “that friend”. Kelly and Kylee have been friends since they were six months old and that friendship has blossomed through the years. Kylee is Kelly’s “I’ve got your back” girl, and Kelly is the same. Kylee lives 6 houses down from us and I bet most outsiders wouldn’t know that Kylee and Kelly don’t belong in the same house. They are rarely seen apart.

Jacob and Daniel are very much the same way. Daniel is our across the street neighbor and was the one I mentioned in my Project 365 post yesterday. They’ve been friends for almost 7 years now and are such a good match. It’s been fascinating to me to see how a boy best friend relationship works. It’s kind of a cool thing… a mutual understanding and respect that I don’t think a lot of girls have with each other. Either way, I am so glad they have each other.

When I was growing up, my mom used to say all the time to me how proud she was because of the friends I chose. I never knew what she meant by that until I had kids. Friends are important, but best friends… who you chose to spend most of your time with… influence you in a way no one else really can. Being associated with the wrong friend can bring you down. Being surrounded by great people can lift you up. I’m thankful my kids have found their bff match because I know from experience how difficult that is to do. A friend is special, but a best friend? A best friend is a rare and wonderful gift.

I’m going to caveat this with… my husband is my best friend and I am so thankful to have him in my life. He’s my lifeline and who I would call first (or nudge) if something happened in the middle of the night. If I was really nice to him, he may even indulge me in a chick flick movie marathon someday. The friendship I’m referring to in this post is a girlfriend bff. Just wanted to make sure I was clear!

Now, tell me about your best friend, will you? How did you meet? How long have you been friends? How have you nurtured your friendship thorough the years? I want to hear all about it!


 

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Comments

  1. Great post!! I adore reading about, talking about, and writing about friendship. I truly think it’s the stuff that makes the world go ’round.

    I literally can’t thank the universe enough for the friends I am so fortunate to have. I have friends from when I was 3, 13, 17, 23, 30, etc. etc. I think we build a huge and tight family of our choosing from the friends we make along the way in life.

    I’ve used my BFF friendship material as inspiration for a blog post more than once. There is a group of four of us who have been so close for so long, I can’t recall a time when they weren’t in my life.

    One of my earliest blog posts was written for one of my BFFs on a rough day in her life: http://www.lifeaccordingtosteph.com/2011/08/luke-loves-laura-and-so-do-i.html

    And two of my other BFFs both have a birthday in the first week of June. I was overcome with the love for friends that week: http://www.lifeaccordingtosteph.com/2012/06/my-two-kims.html

  2. This was such a sweet post. Growing up, my best friend lived 5 houses down from me and we we’re inseparable. Since we spent so much time together we even began to talk alike. Neither one of us could properly pronounce the “R” sound:) During our elementary school years, we got taken out of class and were put into speech therapy together…which was pretty much the best thing ever, it was just like more playtime with my favorite person. After having a falling out that grew into 2 years of very limited talking, we’ve managed to accept that each of us has changed slightly. Our relationship is different now, but regardless, she’s still my best friend.

    Thanks for the post. It reminded me how truly special having a best friend is:)

  3. I totally understand what you mean! I moved when I was ten and struggled to find where I fit in, which meant it took me awhile to make good friends. Then I went to University and made the BEST friends! Unfortunately, we all went our seperate ways after school finished, and it is SO much harder to make friends as an adult. I’ve been pretty unsuccessful at it. And not very good at keeping in touch with my school friends. I definitely feel the void.

    I’m glad your kids have best friends. It is definitely a special relationship!

  4. I love this post Kristen! I’m so thankful for a few close friends I can call up and chat just about anything with. I always wanted a sister best friend when i was little. I was an only child and had a new best friend every school year or so. Thankfully now my sister-in-law, although 10 years younger, is my best girlfriend. We don’t talk everyday (she lives about 4 hours away), but whenever one of us needs girlfriend therapy so to speak, we’re always there for each other, and since we’ve known each other for so long, we can be completely honest and hide nothing.

  5. My best friend is one that I met the very first day at college. I basically attacked her with my overly-happy, “HI! I’m BECCA! WHAT’S YOUR NAME?!?!?!” Five years later we are still the best of friends. She understands me, and I don’t know why, but she makes me laugh like no one else in the world. We have what we like to call “humor snowballs” where one tiny little thing because this enormous mess of humor. Don’t you love someone who can make you feel silly? Love this post. Thanks for sharing.

  6. Whitney Schmale says:

    Kristen-
    I don’t think you are alone. Dave and my mom are the people I go to first. Other wonderful people in my life, present company included :), I call on depending upon the situation. Time and distance are the two biggest culprits! You know you can count on me sweetie!

  7. I was an only child and had a new best friend every school year or so. Thankfully now my sister-in-law, although 10 years younger, is my best girlfriend. We don’t talk everyday (she lives about 4 hours away), but whenever one of us needs girlfriend therapy so to speak,

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