Identity Crisis (Shrimp and Asparagus Recipe)

Minus the fried ice cream and funnel cakes, our family has been trying to eat a bit healthier lately. Since my kids love fresh vegetables, I have been trying to incorporate as much as I can into our evening meals. That is why, when I saw this recipe for Shrimp and Asparagus on All Recipes the other day, I decided to give it a try. The problem was, I didn’t really look at the recipe closely before getting started on it. What started out as appearing to be a healthy recipe ended up calling for a massive amount of butter and olive oil! Seriously – 1 cup butter and 1/2 cup olive oil? When I ended up making the Shrimp and Asparagus, I cut down on both the butter and olive oil significantly and it was still very delicious.

I decided that this recipe was having some sort of identity crisis. The person who created it wanted it to be a healthy recipe, hence the shrimp and vegetables, but just couldn’t seem to give up some of the goodies to do so.

A group of friends and I have been talking a lot lately about our identity as moms. One thing I have noticed is that when I am in a group with people I do not know very well and one of them asks me what I do for a living, I struggle to come up with what to say. Of course I am a mom, but I try to blurt out what I get “paid” to do first before saying that I am a stay at home mom…as if that has more value. Why is that? I know that being a mom is the most important job in the world. I also know that it is what I was meant to do with my life, when it all comes down to it. My kids are my passion, I love that I am able to stay at home and raise them… so why is it that I struggle to express who I really am as a person? Like this recipe, I want to be what I am, but am having a hard time putting aside some of the wishes of who I believe I could be to do so.

It is a common identity crisis that I believe many of us have, even people who are not stay at home moms. I know that in order to be the best mom I can be, I have to be able to nurture my true self outside of the role of motherhood. However, next time someone asks what I do for a living, I am going to answer loud and proud that I am a stay at home and am raising 3 (almost 4!) beautiful children. I truly have the best of both worlds when it really comes down to it, and for that, I should be eternally grateful.

Shrimp and Asparagus (from

  • 1 pound fresh asparagus
  • 1 (16 ounce) package egg noodles
  • 4 cloves garlic, minced
  • 1/2 cup extra virgin olive oil
  • 1 cup butter
  • 1 tablespoon lemon juice
  • 1 pound medium shrimp – peeled and deveined
  • 1 pound fresh mushrooms, thinly sliced
  • 1/2 cup grated Parmesan cheese
  • salt and pepper to taste
  1. In a small saucepan, boil or steam asparagus in enough water to cover until tender; chop and set aside.
  2. Bring a large pot of salted water to full boil, place the pasta in the pot and return to a rolling boil; cook until al dente. Drain well.
  3. In a large saucepan, saute garlic in the olive oil over medium-low heat until the garlic is golden brown.
  4. Place butter and lemon juice in the saucepan. Heat until the butter has melted. Place the shrimp in the saucepan and cook until the shrimp turns pink. Place the mushrooms and asparagus into the saucepan, cook until mushrooms are tender.
  5. Toss the shrimp and vegetable mixture with the egg noodles and sprinkle with Parmesan cheese. Salt and pepper to taste. Serve immediately.

I have totally had my eye on these Shrimp recipes from other food blogs around the blogosphere:

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  1. says

    Quick question. I have a long list of wedding showers to attend starting in March and would like to buy a cookbook to accompany their main gift. If you could choose one book, what would it be?

  2. says

    I totally understand what you mean about blurting out the job you get paid for first rather than stating that you are a stay at home mom. Like you said, even those of us not in that position often falter when it comes to saying what we do. It often happens among strangers because they are sizing us up at the same time but again, like you said, we have to own who we are and what we do because no one does it better than us.

  3. pat/Mom says

    I once attended a workshop where we were asked the question, “Who are you?” five times. The first three times might be easy, but the last two took a lot of thought. After answering, it was suggested that you look at your answers and analyze them. Then we were put into groups of five for discussion. I still remember that I learned a lot about myself. The most important and satisfying career was being “MOM”. Children are fortunate who have a mom who believes that. I did, you did, and now your children do. Love and Mom should be synonyms!


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